Family members do not always have healthy boundaries. I know I certainly grew up in a very dysfunctional family. Boundaries are often enmeshed and severely lacking in these families. Children then grow up to be adults, who don’t know how to take care of themselves or set healthy boundaries. Their lack of boundaries then creates turmoil and drama in their lives.
People who have poor boundaries often feel stressed, angry, and unhappy. Below is a list of some of your rights as an adult. The more you realize that you have these rights, the more you will be able to develop healthy boundaries. Healthy boundaries lead to inner peace, joy, and emotional freedom! Your new boundaries will help you to feel empowered and good.
You have the right to:
- Decide what is best for you.
- Be a good parent to the child within you.
- Grieve any losses that you experienced, whether from childhood or that you are currently experiencing.
- Change and grow, while fully supporting yourself on this journey.
- Pursue your heart’s desires.
- Work on accomplishing your goals.
- Follow your own values and standards.
- Say no when something is not right for you.
- Change your mind at any moment.
- Prioritize what is important to you.
- End conversations that make you feel uncomfortable.
- Not answer a question that is off limits.
- No longer be your family and friend’s emotional dumping ground.
- Set limits in how much you give to others.
- Be treated with respect in every situation.
- Be who you are, without having to be perfect.
- Make mistakes.
- Be angry at someone you love.
- Express who you are.
- Express how you feel.
- Be fully in your power.
- Take your time to think about what you want.
- Give up being a people-pleaser.
- Ask for what you want and need.
- Have relationships that add to your life.
- Fully enjoy life in a way that is pleasing to you.
- Be happy.
- Take excellent care of yourself–body, mind, and spirit.
- Spend quality time with yourself.
- Have fun!
- Be flexible.
- Stand up for yourself.
- End any relationship that is not right for you.
- Have new relationships that add to your life.
- Do what makes you happy.
- Fully take care of yourself in every situation.
- Trust others who earn your trust.
- Forgive yourself and forgive others.
- Fully love yourself and others.
Choose one thing on this list that stands out in your mind. Then think about the new boundary that you are going to set with others. For example, if someone is talking about something that you don’t want to discuss, you can say, “I really do not want to talk about that.” This one simple boundary will save you from unnecessary turmoil. When this new boundary is solidly in place, set another boundary. Keep doing this until you have solid boundaries that help you to be emotionally free. You deserve to live a life of peace, joy, and happiness!
Read the next post in the series, Healthy Boundaries–Your Ticket to Happiness, Part 2, to see ways you can set healthy boundaries regarding these rights.